The number of women out there having real orgasms would be more plentiful if men weren’t so confused about sex. Women want great sex, and when they find a guy can give them real orgasms, they flock to him. Stop worrying about pointless issues like “if size matters”. There’s factors that are a thousand times more important, like her psychology.
An orgasm for a woman starts in her mind. If you cannot arouse her imagination and her emotions then you will not be able to give her a real orgasm — and I don’t care if you’re the penis size world record holder. There are three variables to consider when psychologically arousing her:
Attraction, Emotional Baggage, and Physical Escalation.
Her level of attraction for you is the first and most important thing you should be focusing on when you first start dating a woman. The reality is that she is barely interested in you, then it’s going to be a whole lot harder to give her a real orgasm than if she thinks you’re as hot as George Clooney.
Why not strive to have her see you as the most attractive man she’s ever met? I do. There are things you can do to increase her attraction for you. To start, always make her expend effort — make her work hard for you! The harder she works for you, the more she will want you.
Next, be her Knight in shining armor. Lead her on an adventure. It is the man’s responsibility to take the lead in the courtship process, the better you are at taking the lead, the more attraction she will feel for you, and the more likely she will have a real orgasm with you.
Next, aim to become her deep sex fantasy. But I can’t go into full detail in this article:-)
After she’s completely attracted to you, this might still not be enough to give her a real orgasm if bad experiences in her past are holding her back from being able to come. This is much more common that you might suspect. Often the her inability to orgasm isn’t your fault, but the fault of the last three guys who cheated on her. Talk to her. If you can get her to share and overcome her emotional pain related to sex, then it will no longer prevent her from having real orgasms.
After, she’s gotten to the point where she’s open with you, physically escalating with her becomes much easier. Become a master at foreplay. I am constantly in a mild mode of foreplay with my women. In fact, that’s just the vibe I have with them, so when I’m around my woman, she part of her is always thinking about sex.
It’s not uncommon for me to tease a woman with foreplay for hours before sex happens. So when she finally does have sex, it seems a real orgasm is inevitable. You don’t just have to use physical foreplay — flirt and tease, be hot and cold, then affectionate and dominant.
Perhaps you gently caress her for a few minutes, then you growl in her ear, and you tell her how you’re going to dominate her in bed.
Physical escalation is the third step — after increasing her attraction, and clearing up her baggage. It has to be in that order. Once you’ve mastered this sequence, giving your woman real orgasms will be simple. I have gone into great detail on this very system on my blog… check it out.