A Mom Blog for Everyone

Mom blogs are exploding on the internet. Every diaper change, every giggle, every time a baby burps can be documented for thousands of people to read about on their computers with the start of a blog. Mothers start blogs for many reasons. Some want to share their joys, fears, concerns, or ask for advice from time to time. Others want to document their children’s growth, tell stories about their kids for their families to read. Other moms are seeking a social network. Mom blogs have opened up a circle of friends for mothers who would normally be confined to Dora the Explorer and conversation with stuffed dolls at tea parties. The blogs allow moms some time to converse with adults in multisyllabic verse about things they can appreciate. And in some cases mom blogs have even sparked business possibilities. Companies are beginning to see blogs as potential marketing forums.

While many mom blogs simply describe family life, some fulfill certain niches. Here is a list of blogs that stand out because they speak about specific ideas or fulfill certain roles:

  1. Motherlode by Lisa Belkin is the New York Times Mom Blogger. She is humorous and she does not shy away from controversial topics. She always has something worthwhile to discuss. Motherlode is the source to go to for the hottest parenting news. She also opens her blog up to guest bloggers.
  2. A little pregnant by Julie Robichaux is one woman’s account of her struggle with infertility. Eventually she successfully had children but this blog makes it a little easier for women who are having a difficult time conceiving.
  3. Parent Hacks is a parenting advice blog. They answer all sorts of questions – from the sublime to the ridiculous.
  4. Would Coulda Shoulda by Mir Kamin is a wonderfully written blog. It accounts her life from single motherhood to the loss of her job to her hysterectomy. Kamin is a mother of a teenage daughter.
  5. Dooce by Heather Armstrong is one of the most popular mom blogs around. Heather Armstrong was once fired from a job for her blog writing (she was “dooced), and she later wrote a vivid account of her post partum depression which she turned into a book, It Sucked and Then I Cried. She was once a Mormon, she is at times controversial, and Dooce is very popular to read.
  6. The Pioneer Woman by Ree Drumond, a rancher’s wife, is a gorgeous, professional looking blog filled with delicious recipes, beautiful photography, and wonderfully well-written blogs. She also has a section about homeschooling for all of you home schoolers out there.
  7. Diary of a Mom by Cheryl Levi is another very popular, often humorous blog that explores a different topic related to parenthood each week. The intent of the blog is to give moms something to discuss or think about, and as such it always includes links to further articles.

Mom blogs are spreading over the internet like chocolate ice cream at a pajama party. Everyone wants to read them, discuss them, and even perhaps start one of their own. There are teen mom blogs, food mom blogs, stay-at-home mom blogs, single-mom blogs… any type of mom you can think of – there are blogs out there for her to read. Clearly mom blogging is filling a need.

My Husband Can’t Chose Between Me And The Other Woman He’s Having An Affair With – What Should I Do?

I sometimes hear from wives who are caught in a love triangle between their husband and someone else. Often, they never suspected that they would find themselves in this position. But when the choice is to allow your husband to walk away from you after all of the time and effort you have put in your marriage, the lines that have you have previously drawn are sometimes not as clear cut now.

I recently heard from a wife who said “last year, my husband developed a relationship with his assistant. He has known this woman for years and, if I’m being honest, I have always liked her. Last year, one of her children became ill and my husband went out of his way to support her in every way that he could. This was the right thing to do but unfortunately as the result, their relationship turned romantic and an affair began. I found out about their relationship last month. My husband insists that he loves me and doesn’t want a divorce. So I told him that he had to fire the other woman and cut off all contact with her. He did not hesitate to tell me that he could not do that. Not only would he never let her down when her son is ill, and he admitted that he has come to love her like family and he depends on her so much. I told him if that is how he feels then he should just let me go, but he won’t. He’s constantly sending flowers and buying me gifts and begging me to go to dinner with him. He doesn’t hide our relationship from the other woman. It’s become quite the mess. I don’t want to lose my husband. But I can’t participate in this love triangle forever. What is a wife supposed to do when her husband can’t chose between her and the other woman? Should you give him an ultimatum? Should you try to break them up? What is the best course of action? I’m sorry that her life is so tough and her son is sick, but I’m not ready to hand over my husband.”

This is a very tough situation. It’s one thing if you hate the other woman or she is evil. Because then, it’s easy to want to banish her from your life and never look back. But when you know her personally, have liked her, and know she is facing a tough personal challenge, then all of these things make a difficult situation even worse.

Even so, I have a definite opinion on how I feel it best to proceed in this situation. This opinion is based on my own experience and on the experience of many who comment on my blog.

It Is Truly Best If Your Husband Makes His Own Decision When He Chooses Between The Two Of You: I have to tell you that I dialog with many women who have given their husband an ultimatum and then have celebrated when their husband begrudgingly chose them over the other woman. But what you often do not think about is what happens after he comes home and the two of you try to pick up the marriage where you left off. Because things sometimes are not so easy then. Although the husband might have chosen the wife, he can sometimes still have feelings for the other woman. And the result is him moping around and pining for her. Needless to say, this can make his homecoming and the marriage less than happy because he’s always going to know somewhere in the back of his mind that he made a forced decision. As a result, he may not be a full participant in the marriage.

That’s why it’s preferable to allow him to come to his own decision. I know that I am asking a lot. I know that this is a very scary thought. Because you worry that if you give your husband even a little room, the other woman will push him toward her instead and, ultimately, you will lose him. But to be honest, if she makes the mistake of pushing him, then she might be on the receiving end of the scenario that I just described, which would not be the worst thing for you or your marriage.

A Suggested Script For When Your Husband Cant Decide Between You And The Other Woman: Since I’ve already suggested that you allow his husband to make his own decision without your offering ultimatums or threats, now I’m going to suggest a conversation that you might want to have to draw a line in the sand. I think that is very unhealthy for you to participate in a love triangle. It’s degrading and it laughs in the face of your marriage vows. So a suggested conversation might be something like: “it’s clear that you are having a hard time choosing between me and her. And I’m not going to add to your burden by giving you an ultimatum or throwing a fit. I’m disappointed that we are in this situation. And I can’t respect myself and continue to live this way, but I know that you need time. So I am going to take some time for myself while you are deciding that you want to do. When you come to a decision, let me know. But I can’t participate in our relationship when there is someone else in it. I want to save our marriage. But we can’t do that while she is still present. So when and if you decide that our marriage is your priority, you know where to find me.”

Many wives tell me that this strategy feels risky. I know that it does. But with this strategy you are maintaining your self esteem and you’re allowing her to make the mistakes. She will likely push him where you have stepped away and she will look more negative by comparison. Either way, this is the only true way to know how he really feels so that once he does make a decision, you will know that you didn’t unduly influence it and you are more likely to believe that it is accurate. And if he does chose you, you’ll know that he did so willingly and that he truly is committed to your marriage. Plus, because you’ve taken yourself out of the equation, if he really wants you, then he will be motivated to make a quick decision.

3 Things That Must Be Considered Before Creating Your Blog

The great thing about having a blog is that you are free to write anything you want!

On the other hand, it would be better to produce content that is beneficial to your readers. Prior to building your blog, I will discuss three valuable tips for you to review.

In order to have a successful blog, it must be interesting and beneficial for your readers. If you are thinking about creating a blog for business use, then it is important for you to take three things into consideration.

Who is Your Target Audience?

Before you decide to make your blog live for the world to see, it is best to clearly define your target audience.

There are many new business owners who market to the wrong crowd. As a result, the majority of the leads they do acquire are of low quality. They did not take the time to define who will benefit the most with their product or service. They do not specify their target market.

You don’t want to go down that same road, because your time is precious while building your business.

If you have not already done so, define your ideal prospect. You do not want the products or services of your business to be offered to all people. It will be so much easier for you to create products and services around your niche target market.

As an entrepreneur, you should regularly research and understand the wants, needs, and spending habits of your ideal prospect. The more data that is gathered from your target market, the better you will understand what they expect from you. Your products and services should be developed around the research that was conducted on your target market.

Even though your blog content is aimed for business purposes, it is generally personal to you. It is crucial to make sure your blog content is about your readers. Your blog must include content that is geared towards the interests of your target audience.

After all, most people who write blogs are not confined to their own personal motives.

Most writers of blogs would love to be “heard” and would love to be known, in some way or another, even if it is just for a minute.

Hence, it is very important to create content that everyone in your target audience will understand. Not necessarily that these people can relate to the content, but they can understand it.

Display Attractive Images for Search Engine Optimization

Visually appealing images draw visitors to read and to explore the content in your blog.

To make your blogging worth the browsing effort of your readers, it would be extremely useful to include images.

It does not necessarily mean you have to place a picture of yourself; however, your professional photo is great for your bio page.

Any images will do, as long as it does not pose danger or insult to anyone who will be reading your blog. That is the last thing you will need to deal with on your blogging venture.

Labeling the Alt Text and Tagging Images

Many people search images on the internet. It will be a bonus for them to click on yours, so they will be lead to your blog.

It is wise to label the alt text on the images in your blog, because your images will get indexed for any image searches with the major search engines.

When you properly tag your images, it actually leads to indexing all posts associated with the word that was tagged on your images. This gives your readers the ability to read other blog posts that are related to the tagged images.

Tagging your images is another way to generate readers to your blog via the image searches with the major search engines.

Now you know how images will increase the overall value of the content you are producing on your blog.

Avoid Creating a Complicated Blog

You are the only person who can make your blog unique. The content of your blog should emulate your personality. Never be afraid to share who you are and what you stand for in life.

Most people who use the Internet usually do more scanning than scrutinizing each website they come across. If they do, then they are not worthy of your time. You will have plenty of people who will love to know more about you and your expertise.

In order to have an interesting blogs, it is not necessary to use highly technical and pretentious words. After all, your blog is not a debate or an academic discourse.

It is not recommended for you to require your visitors to register for your blog to comment or to require log-ins. This makes interacting with your content complicated and very time consuming. People are turned off by this and will not want to interact with a blog of this nature.

Your readers would love to interact with you.

Let them!

This will keep them coming back for more.

The three valuable blogging tips above should help you with designing a blog that will not only attract the audience that you want, but will be beneficial to your target audience.

Stay tuned for more marketing and business building advice to help you build a strong foundation for your growing business.

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